Many people haven't been able to recover from their brokenness. It will even be a part of their system which will just be popping out of their lives, (like they will just simply shout, cry, ect). These will be the results when they remember the incident that really affected their life. One might be an accident or trauma or any circumtances in their life that left them behind or experiences that stained their lives. These such things are always coming back to their minds that will cause them uneasiness, discomfort and irritation. Some might have phobia.
However, some have learned to face their problems and mastered overcoming their failings and feelings. How happy and peaceful their mind is! They are very blessed, mature enough to face such certain difficulties!
My dearest friend (special someone) had asked me, “How do you feel when you are hurt? Why some people, thought
they are hurt still not crying? Why me, I cannot control, but to cry? It seems I cannot breath if I don't. (I hope I have good translation (",), in Tagalog: ‘Tol, ikaw po ba pag kunyari nasasaktan ka, anu ba yung pakiramdam mo? Bakit yung iba kahit na nasasaktan sila kaya pa din nilang di umiyak? Ako, hindi ko kaya ang hindi umiyak. Para kasing hindi ako makahinga.’)”
Here is how I replied: " I feel like? Heavy... always thinking and thinking... I am experiencing (living) the experience of being lonely... I am just enjoying first the experience as it is (experiencing the feeling of the existence of pain). Just like, it will be a waste if I will avoid being lonely, so I am just letting myself to feel it, because when I am happy already, loneliness will be gone.. I do thank loneliness becuase of it I learned something. It seems that, loneliness became a friend. A friend as of feeling happiness. Loneliness turns to be like happiness. Loneliness will be a friend that gives positive effect. Like negative becomes positive; when a sinner becomes a holy man."
Loneliness and happiness are two extremes to which they comes along together. You cannot feel being happy if you have'nt felt being lonely. Loneliness is taken/thought the other way around. Extracting the positive effect of it, that is, in an optimistic way. Loneliness will become an abstract feeling which should not be avoided, but welcome it instead. Loneliness is seen as a bridge to happiness. But I would like to clear here that we should desire to be lonely. I am pointing here that loneliness should be viewed in special way, in which means to let us realize certain things that will help us grow as human, as person specifically.
This is finding comfort in pain.
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